Did you know that there are different communication styles?  Such differences can wreak havoc in our relationships, sometimes we just don't get each other!

We all have our own communication style.  Some people are task focused while others are people focused.   Some are outgoing while others are reserved.  I like to describe them as your Communication DNA.  You are born with certain preferences.  You can change how you behave, how you think, but certain things remain you.  

One of the four main styles is the Powerful and Direct communicator.  They are action based, outgoing, task focused, results oriented and for the rest of the population they can be quite challenging.  If this is your style, however, chances are you are not even aware of the impact you can have on others.

Powerful Communicators are motivated by challenges, they love problems can be highly competitive and extremely strong willed.  If you want something done, give to this person.  However, be aware they may leave bruises.  

These guys really have no idea how straight down the line, no fuss, in your face they can be.  To the average person they can seem aggressive, even like a bully. Sadly, this is not their intent at all.  They are just after the result and if people get in the way, then that’s where the damage can occur. 

This is my strongest style and I have been known to mow people down in the supermarket, I literally don’t see them.  I am focused on the task and the task is to complete the shopping.  It’s not to say “Hi”.  To see who I know, to window shop.  No, its get the items bag them and get out of there!  I have had friends come up to me days later and say they felt really upset when I ignored them, I honestly did not even see them.  

This Powerful style gravitates to leadership and management roles where they can make decisions and have control.   Unfortunately unless enlightened or self aware, they can cause trouble for others.   Problems arise because they are so fast paced, quick thinking, decisive and you got it – direct.  

Don’t be too hard on the Powerful communicators in your world.  They really have a good heart and don’t realise how pushy and direct they can be at times.  Why?  Because I don’t think anyone has been brave enough to tell them!

Next time we will look at the Playful and Influencing communicator. 

If you are a Powerful communicator and are struggling you  get in contact with us and ask your specific questions.

So, how can you understand your Communication DNA?  If Communication DNA is a new term for you, check out this video specifically about this concept, it will explain it fully for you.   

If you are interested in taking the DNA test then get in contact with us.

For training or to learn more about your DNA style and how to get the most out of your relationships visit us at kyliewarry.com

If you would love to understand yourself or others more then I encourage you to read all about the other DNA styles.

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Conscious Communicator

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